No matter how long you've been in a relationship, there's always room to grow.
In fact, continually being curious about your partner can help strengthen your bond, especially since people change over time and preferences, feelings, likes and dislikes evolve.
That's why it's important to keep the conversation going, no matter what stage of a relationship you're in.
It’s the “spice of a lively relationship, whether you’ve known someone for two months or 20 years,” says Angela Amias, LCSW, a psychotherapist based in Cheyenne, WY.
“Part of the magic of new relationships is that we have so many questions for the other person.”
To gain insight into your someone special, we've collected a list of questions to ask your girlfriend.
Even if you think you already know everything there is to know, “The longer you’re with someone, the more they start putting you in this box and assume that they already know you,” says Avigail Lev, Psy.D., director of the Bay Area CBT Center. “Regardless of how well you think you know your partner, you can always get to know them better.”
Whether you're chilling out at home or keeping each other company on a long drive, ask your girlfriend these deep, fun and flirty questions and you just might be surprised by what you learn.
Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
For new relationships, or if you’re just in a discussion rut, use these questions to get the ball rolling.
- What’s a movie you secretly love but would never recommend?
- What’s one fun fact about you that most people don't know?
- What’s your go-to karaoke song?
- What’s a fictional character you weirdly relate to?
- What’s a small thing that always makes your day better?
- If your life were a genre of film, what would it be?
- What’s something you’ve always wanted to learn?
- What’s your comfort TV show or movie?
- If you could instantly become fluent in one language, which would you pick?
- Do you believe in astrology and do you think our signs are compatible?
- What’s a trend that you think is cringy?
- What’s your favorite way to spend a lazy Sunday?
- Did you ever go through a difficult phase in middle school or high school?
- What do you consider a red flag in a relationship?
- What’s a random skill you’re surprisingly good at?
- What’s your favorite kind of surprise?
- How many times a week do you like to socialize?
- What's the first thing you notice about a person?
- If you had a time machine for one day, what year would you visit?
- What’s the most random thought you had today?
- What’s an interesting article you’ve read recently?
- What travel destination do you dream of visiting?
- Which day of the weekend do you like best and why?
- What’s your favorite book of all time?
- What's your favorite way to spend a free day?
- If you could have one superpower, what would it be?
- What’s your most unusual talent?
- If you could master any skill overnight, what would it be?
- What’s the most adventurous thing you’ve ever done?
- If you could switch lives with a TV character for a day, who would you choose?
- If you could have lunch with anyone in the world, who would it be and why?
- What's the strangest dream you've ever had?
- If you won the lottery, what's the first thing you'd spend it on?
- What’s your favorite spot in your home?
- What's your least favorite condiment?
- If you could start a non-profit, what would it be and why?
- If you had to recommend a podcast, what would it be?
- What's the most difficult recipe you've ever baked or cooked?
- What's your favorite beverage?
- Who do you admire and why?
Deep Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
Strengthening your bond through meaningful conversation is important. Here are some deep questions you can ask your girlfriend to get to know her better.
- What does emotional safety in a relationship look like for you?
- How do you define “home?” Is it a place, a person or something else?
- What kind of legacy do you hope to leave behind one day?
- Is there someone from your past you wish you could see again?
- How do you typically cope with disappointment or setbacks?
- What does forgiveness mean to you in a relationship?
- How do you handle conflict with someone you're close to?
- What’s one boundary that’s really important for you in a relationship?
- How do you define “success?”
- When you think about the future, what excites you and what worries you?
- What's the best gift you've ever received and what made it special?
- Are you someone who needs alone time to recharge or social time?
- What was one of your biggest childhood fears?
- Do you believe in soulmates, or do you think love is a choice?
- What's something you've accomplished that you're proud of?
- How do you prefer support during a conflict: Space, talking or something else completely?
- What’s one value you’ll never compromise on?
- What does loving someone mean to you?
- How do you support someone close who's having a hard time?
- What’s something you'd change about yourself if you could?
- What can I do to support you when you’re feeling stressed or down?
- What do you hope your life looks like a year from now?
- What mistakes have you learned from previous relationships?
- Is there anything I don’t know about you yet that you think is important to share?
- Are there any day-to-day interactions or topics that sometimes upset you?
- Do you think we spend the right amount of time together?
- Where do you see our relationship in a year? In five years?
- What values are most important to you?
- What’s your love language?
- How do you handle conflict?
- What does marriage mean to you?
- Do you hope to have a child or children?
- How have your parents influenced how you view relationships?
- How important is family to you?
- What are your biggest roommate pet peeves?
- What's something we could be better at as a couple?
- Do you think you have trust issues?
- Why did your last relationship end?
- Is where you live now, the place you still hope to be in 10 years from now?
- Are you happy with your work-life balance?
Relationship Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
Use these queries to reflect on your time as a couple and to help grow your relationship.
- What do you think we’ve handled well as a couple so far?
- Is there a time we overcame something you didn’t think we would?
- What have I done in our relationship that makes you feel especially valued?
- What’s a routine or habit we’ve created that you hope continues?
- How do you think we’ve changed each other — for better or worse?
- What's your financial language?
- Do you feel like we’ve grown at the same pace, or at different speeds?
- What have been some of our strongest seasons as a couple?
- What’s something you wish we had done differently when we first started dating?
- In what ways have we improved our communication since the beginning?
- Is there a moment in our relationship that you revisit often in your mind?
- What’s a challenge we faced that you think brought us closer?
- How do we complement each other when things get stressful?
- What’s a turning point in our relationship that shaped where we are now?
- How do you think we’ve handled each other’s vulnerabilities?
- What’s a risk we took together that paid off?
- Are there any patterns in our relationship that we’ve broken — or still need to?
- What’s something I’ve done that made you feel truly respected?
- Looking back, is there a moment where you knew you could trust me?
- What do you think has helped our relationship last this long?
- What’s your proudest accomplishment in our relationship as a couple?
- Do you feel like there’s anything we could have improved on in the early phases of our relationship?
- What areas have room for growth in our relationship right now?
- What do you think our loved ones would say about our bond?
- What kind of evolution have you seen in me?
- What kind of evolution have you seen in us as a couple?
- Is there anything you wish you could have changed about our relationship history?
- What is one thing we can do together each week to deepen our love for each other?
- What could we each do differently in our relationship to support each other better?
- Do you have any regrets in having me as a boyfriend?
- How do we handle challenges as a couple?
- Are there any dreams you’d like for us to accomplish together?
- What positive qualities do you think we each bring out in each other?
- Is there a time you can look back on in our relationship that you would call a turning point?
- How have our priorities changed as a couple?
- What’s your favorite thing about our relationship?
- What’s your least favorite thing about our relationship?
- What do you think we have learned from this relationship?
- What has been the biggest gift of our relationship?
- What has been the biggest challenge of our relationship?
- What’s one situation you wish I handled differently?
Sweet Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
Tug at her heartstrings with these heartfelt questions to ask your girlfriend.
- What’s something small I do that always makes you feel loved?
- If our relationship were a movie, what would the title be?
- What’s one memory of us that gives you butterflies?
- What’s something you think we’re really good at as a couple?
- What's an adventure you'd like to try together?
- What’s a silly moment we’ve shared that still makes you smile?
- What do you think makes our relationship unique?
- What’s your favorite version of “us” — traveling, lazy Sundays, or date nights?
- If we could relive one day from our relationship, which one would you choose?
- What’s something you hope never changes between us?
- What compliment have I given you that really stuck with you?
- What’s your favorite way we spend time together, even if it’s simple?
- If I wrote you a love letter, what’s one thing you’d want it to say?
- What’s something you’re looking forward to experiencing with me someday?
- What kind of love story do you think we’re writing?
- What do you think I appreciate most about you?
- What’s your favorite way to be comforted when you’re upset — and how can I do it better?
- If you could bottle one feeling from our relationship, what would it be?
- What’s a “relationship goal” you think we’ve already achieved?
- What’s something you love about the way we say “I love you” — with or without words?
- What do you remember thinking when you first met me?
- What’s your favorite date we ever went on together?
- Is there anything I can do to make you less stressed for the day or week ahead?
- What’s your most cherished way of spending quality time together?
- When do you feel like we are most connected?
- What song reminds you of our relationship?
- What book reminds you of our relationship?
- If two celebrities were playing us in a biopic, who would you pick to portray us?
- What’s the sweetest thing anyone has ever done for you?
- What tiny thing makes you feel the most loved?
- What’s the most thoughtful gift anyone has ever gotten you?
- How did you know you wanted to be my girlfriend?
- What’s your favorite thing about our relationship?
- What compliment is your favorite to hear?
- Can I plan a special date for us this weekend?
- What can I do to be a better partner to you?
- Are there any New Year’s resolutions we can make together?
- What do you think our biggest accomplishment as a couple is?
- What memory of ours always makes you smile?
- What totally gives you the “ick”?
Random Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
Sometimes you just want to know if they like pretzels or potato chips better. Try these random questions to unearth some new facts about your girlfriend.
- What’s your ultimate comfort meal?
- If you had a signature scent, what would it smell like?
- Would you rather have a surprise party or planned dinner with friends?
- If are your three most-used emojis?
- What's the best advice you've ever gotten?
- If you could instantly swap lives with a famous person for a week, who would it be?
- What’s your personal theme song right now?
- Do you think aliens exist? If they did, what would you show them first?
- What’s the most recent thing you Googled?
- What's your funniest dating story?
- What’s a snack combo you swear by but others would judge you for?
- If you could redesign the calendar, what would you change?
- What’s something super ordinary that makes you happy?
- If you had to wear one color for the rest of your life, what would it be?
- One song you could listen to on repeat forever?
- What’s your favorite way to waste time?
- Window seat or aisle?
- Socks on or off when you sleep?
- Pancakes or waffles?
- Rainy day nap or sunny day walk?
- Pretzels or potato chips?
- Mountains or the beach?
- What’s your biggest pet peeve?
- Staying in or going out?
- What’s the last interesting thing you got in the mail?
- What’s the right amount of pillows for you?
- Night owl or morning bird?
- Showers or baths?
- Cats or dogs?
- What’s your favorite holiday?
- What’s your favorite month?
- What’s your horoscope for today?
- If you had to be on a reality TV show, which would it be?
- What’s the best way to spend a rainy day?
- What’s your favorite season?
- What’s your favorite day of the week?
- Hot tub or cold plunge?
- Tea or coffee?
- Alarm clocks or getting up naturally?
Flirty Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
- What's one rom-com you could watch on repeat?
- What's more romantic: flowers or chocolates?
- Do you prefer holding hands or hugging?
- Who's your celebrity crush?
- How do you define intimacy?
- What kind of music puts you in the mood?
- From start to finish, what would your perfect date be?
- Breakfast in bed or strawberries and champagne?
- What was the first thing that attracted you to me?
- Do you believe in love at first sight?
- Which of my features do you find most attractive?
- Which of your features are you most confident about?
- What makes your heart race?
- If you were a spice, which one would you be?
- What's something you'd like more of in the future?
- What makes you blush?
- What's the most romantic thing anyone has ever done for you?
- What's your favorite way to spend a Friday night?
- If you could watch the sunset from anywhere in the world, where would it be?
- Flirty banter or smooth-talking?
- If you were an animal, which one would you be?
- Who was your first kiss?
- What makes someone desirable?
- Best movie or TV kiss you've ever seen?
- What color do you like to see me in?













